• The empty plot

    When I first saw it, I was shocked! It had my sister’s name on it. Yet, she is still here, alive and well. Her name was engraved, on the copper marker, next to her husband’s. It makes New Orleans’ stack-up grave yard look like junior high. This is serious. She planned ahead of time, for…

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  • Mr Lonely 2.0

    Oh well. When I get my 2nd jab (Moderna), I will get out while observing CDC-guidance. But this pandemic brought back memories of past lonely times, like the time I was “parachuted” into lily-white Penn State, freshly arrived from South Vietnam. Missed Move-in date, missed Fall orientation, I started from ground zero literally all-by-myself. In…

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  • The empty bed

    My nephew who left Vietnam a few years later, mentioned – during the course of our conversations- that he came by the house, saw my Dad living all by himself (we were apart for a good decade). And he mentioned something interesting: upstairs, in our bedroom, those beds were left just the way they were…

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  • Dreaded April

    To some people, April 15 used to mean paying up. After all, we have exploited and maxed out our infrastructure e.g. water, wifi and right of ways. To others, it starts with April Fool, then Holy Week and Spring Cleaning. To my little exile community, it’s Black April. The time to be reminded how we…

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  • Lies lies lies!

    In looking back, “many thousands of lives could have been saved”…BUT…INSTEAD….blah blah blah lies lies lies. Where is the spirit of 1969? Of questioning your government and its dereliction of duty (back then, sending young men to a protracted war with ” no end in sight”, “nothing to join up”…) We’ve been spin-ned, had. Been…

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  • Woodstock NY vs GA

    Many towns bear the same name, like Columbus or even Paris, Tx. In the case of Woodstock NY vs GA, it’s North vs South, progressive vs regressive. To sum up a life, now infamous of Robert Long’s “pizza, guns…” Upstate New York gave us a three-day festival of Love, Peace and Music. What’s been happening…

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  • Fixation

    Through movies and music, literature and theatre, we learn to self-project, to see ourselves as heroes (villains as well – though we would never admit). We identify with a certain “type”, type- casting ourselves in roles that “fit”and suitable. In short, we fixated on US (since we cannot and never will be able to see…

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  • “God bakes human out of an oven…first time, He took them out too soon: white folks….second time, a bit too long: black folks…then He continuously self-improves.(Kaizen)..just right: folks who are neither Black nor White sort of in-betweeners…” goes the joke. Throughout American history, these “just-right” just-in-time folks got barred (from bringing wives over during the…

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  • Tomorrow would be my kid’s last Zoom schooling day. Been a year to be exact, without to-and-fro drop-off and pick-up, with school-zone speed limits and speeding tickets. We sneak out once in a while for a donut (to-go), plugging-and-unplugging various headsets and speakers, re-arranging the home-office (home-classroom background), doing the laundry before class to avoid…

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  • Loneliness

    “Loneliness, is such a sad affair….” Carpenters’ Superstar…captures our current mood, deep in the wood of an unprecedented pandemic…to the point that Japan, UK and other industrial countries have appointed “Minister of Loneliness”. I was surprised to see young women and men in these staggering World Economic Forum stats, right along side the elderly, as…

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